by Valerie White One of my favorite songs is Bob Blue’s “My Mom Was a Hippie”, in which a young boy bemoans his parents’ crunchy-granola values. They care more about protesting war than they care about getting a half-decent car. His friends’ parents live more traditional lives, while his are “counter-culture”, and he doesn’t even […]

I’ve been reflecting recently on the variety of reactions we polyamorists get to our lifestyle. At choir practice the other night, one of the sopranos mentioned to me that she was taking a class on time management and that the instructor had said that after taking the class the student’s would have so much more […]

I saw a cartoon on a poly website, where a woman gets up from her sickbed after a day of not checking her email, to find hundreds of messages waiting. She turns to a partner accusingly. “You posted about poly and swinging on the list again, didn’t you!” Well, whether or not swinging is a […]

At my next birthday, I’m going to be sixty six. I’ve got five grandchildren. I have gray hair. Conventional wisdom would suggest that I’ve arrived at a stage of life where sexuality is no longer important. There’s a joke about the Miami women who were discussing conversational conventions. “Ve don’t talk about politics, because vat […]

Lots of polyamorous folks are justifiably fascinated by the hypotheses expounded in Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality, by Christopher Ryan, Ph.D. & Cacilda Jethá, M.D. By examining human reproductive physiology and anatomy from an evolutionary perspective, comparing their observations with the sexual customs of modern foragers (hunter-gatherers), and contrasting them with […]

Reprinted from Loving More Magazine Winter Issue #37 It has never been obvious to me that there is anything intrinsically harmful to children in their parents living polyamorously. I myself was raised by a mother who, though she never heard the word “polyamory”, believed that loving more than one person at a time was both […]