The meaning of the word “polyamory” has been debated since the moment of–or perhaps before!–its entry into the standard English-speaking lexicon in the early 1990’s: Polyamory vs. Swinging; Polyamory vs. Cheating; is Don’t Ask/Don’t Tell Polyamory or not? All of these have been discussed nearly innumerable times on lists across the US and in some […]

Annual testing for STIs (sexually transmitted infection) is something I believe every sexually active person should do for their health, not just for people who are in some form of open relationship but anyone sexually active. It is part of being safe and sane with our own health. Unfortunately testing can often be source of […]

Presentation List Poly Living* February 10-12, 2012 *This list is tentative and subject to change. Full schedule Friday Evening Keynote Busting Loose: Polyamory in the Next Five Years Alan M. of Polyamory in the News Website We may be in for quite a ride. Public awareness of polyamory — that this mind-bending thing exists, and […]

By Mystic Life I was recently asked, via my blog, to respond to the question I’ve listed below from a woman who was (like most of us) raised to be monogamous. Upon reflection, I felt that my response may be helpful to readers who are still in the process of defining their values, or who […]

The ruling in the Canadian Case came in this morning with the judge finding that polygamy poses significant and sufficient harm to society to uphold the law 293 of the Criminal Code of Canada. Loving More has followed the case closely for the past year and will post more in the next day or two. […]

Interest in poly and people exploring or choosing polyamory is exploding, not just in the US but around the world. With this growth and the influx of more mainstream people both old and young, the opposition is beginning to notice and it may get ugly. Several things have spurred this growth; Organizations like Loving More, […]

By Mystic Life Most polyamorous people are drawn to this lovestyle because of their distaste for cheating. But what about if you’re dating someone who is cheating on their partner? Perhaps you don’t even know their partner and are therefore not required to lie to (or withhold from) your lover’s lover. You might then be […]

What exactly does marriage mean in the context of a poly relationship? What are the rules? Do they always have to do with power and possession? Can you make the relationship you’re actually having match the relationship you want to be having, or is surrender to “what is” the only option?

By Robyn Trask Reprinted from Loving More Magazine issue 35, Copyright 2005 One of the questions asked most frequently by polyamorous couples is “how do we make polyamory work for us while maintaining our relationship as a couple?”  The question is easy; the answer is at once both simple and complex:  You don’t! Many people […]

By Mystic Life I have learned that polyamory can be used to dissolve the ego, or enhance it.  Similar to how nuclear technology can be used to either power a city or destroy it, the poly path can be utilized to bring us closer to peace, or create endless suffering through multiple attachments.  In other […]

The concept of polyamory is often misunderstood by the general public and the media. Tell someone you are polyamorous and it conjures images for the average person of swing parties and clubs with people getting it on in dark corners or polygamous families with men controlling unhappy sister wives and lots of children. These images […]

Back in college I went to a party with some friends who were visiting from out of town, and apparently one of the women at the party had noticed me. She called and asked if I’d like to go to a movie with her. I honestly had no recollection of who she was until we […]

In his groundbreaking book, “The Soul’s Code,” Jungian psychologist James Hillman claims that we are all born with a blueprint of who we are here to be. He likens this phenomenon to the tiny acorn that holds within it all of the information of the oak tree it will eventually become. There are forces in […]

Marriage is a hot topic these days, from gay activists fighting for equality to the conservative right insisting marriage is the very foundation of civilization and allowing gay marriage is a sign of the destruction of society. Then there is the slippery slope argument that if we allow same sex marriage it will lead to […]

by Mystic Life I’ve been wondering if the best way to offend members of both the monogamous and polyamorous communities is to form (or be interested in forming) a MFF triad. Several years ago, my girlfriend at the time and I were looking to meet someone who we both could love.  I’m straight, and my […]

by Dawn Davidson I could imagine tonight as one of those movies (you’ve probably seen more than one of them) where the action follows several different intertwined story lines, showing a bit here, and a bit there, till somewhere close to the end, they all merge together in one grand, sweeping finish filled with fortuitous […]

by Mystic Life, Author of Spiritual Polyamory I used to believe that the world would be a better place if everyone was polyamorous.  Perhaps in a utopian world in which there was no ego, no fear, and no childhood wounds, that would be true.  However, I’ve come to learn that people need to be where […]

I saw a cartoon on a poly website, where a woman gets up from her sickbed after a day of not checking her email, to find hundreds of messages waiting. She turns to a partner accusingly. “You posted about poly and swinging on the list again, didn’t you!” Well, whether or not swinging is a […]

Claudia Lanigan Claudia Lanigan is trained in numerous healing modalities; she has a passion for healing and helping people. Claudia combines powerful tools of Theta Healing, nurturing touch, massage and Young Living essential oils creating a holistic approach to health and wellness. She believes that it is not enough to offer therapeutic healing, rather that […]

It is not surprising there is so much confusion when the question “What is polyamory?” comes up. Words have both definitions and connotations that build over time heavily influenced by the culture around them. Polyamory was only recently added to the dictionary; first Webster’s and then the Oxford English Dictionary. Webster’s is “the state or […]