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Poly Living 2012 Schedule

Philadelphia, PA

Preliminary Schedule


February 10

4 PM - 7:00 PM

Check in and Registration -

Registration and check-Come to the registration desk; pick up your Conference Package/schedule, name badge and get yourselves all checked in.    We advise all people to get checked in first, then head out to grab some dinner before the evening's festivities.

5:00pm to 7:00pm Special optional presentation

Welcoming the Sabbath/Entering Sacred Space (and Veggie Pot Luck)

In the Jewish tradition Friday night is the beginning of sacred/transformed time. Similarly entering into Poly Living is also a time of transformed consciousness. Participants are invited to participate in a ritual to enter into that sacred space, based on the Kabbalistic ritual to entering the Sabbath. All beliefs welcome. (Location TBA at registration table) After the ritual we will share a vegetarian meal of celebration.


7:00 PM - 11:00 PM

Welcome Announcements

This is our time to welcome you to the weekend. This is the must see time of the weekend, where you will get to meet the presenters, find out important weekend information and enjoy a fabulous keynote address by Alan M. of Polyamory in the News Website. This will also be the time for you to listen from the latest news about Polyamory, Loving More and hear from other key people in our community. So sit back, enjoy our discussion, and experience a chance to mingle with other polyamorous people at the receptions immediately following the Keynote.


Alan M of Polyamory in the News Website

Busting Loose: Polyamory in the Next Five Years

We may be in for quite a ride. Public awareness of polyamory -- that this mind-bending thing exists, and that people are actually succeeding at it -- has spread far in the last two decades. Now the pace may be accelerating. Our ideas are increasingly grabbing public attention, we're in growing demand by the media, and we keep waiting for an organized backlash that never quite happens. What's coming next? And looking much farther out, Alan presents provocative ideas on what the things we're doing may mean for civilization generally.


Join us after the Keynote and announcements at the reception. A chance to mix and mingle, listen to good music and relax. Cash bar and live entertainment…


February 11


9:00 AM - 10:30 AM - Session 1


What to Expect when Exploring Polyamory
Jesus Garcia and Robyn Trask

You’ve seen the headlines “Polyamory; The Next Romantic Revolution?” and it sounds intriguing or you’re ready to jump in and see how the water is.  This workshop is designed to answer questions about the ins and outs of polyamory relating, tips for navigating and advice on the rewards and pitfalls you might expect when learning to relate romantically and sexually to more than one person.  We will discuss some common misconceptions, needed skills and the importance of building good communication and trust.    We will cover language, different relationship configurations, safer sex and the possible choices in relationships and styles of polyamory. This class is meant as an introduction and guideline for those interested in learning more, are new to poly and/or looking to explore polyamory.

Exploring Our Differences
Michael Rios and Sarah Taub

Experiential workshop based on human spectrum using the “allies” game (step into the circle), millings, and other transparency techniques. In a very supportive context, participants identify important things about themselves, see how that is similar or different from the others present, and then explore those parts of themselves using various exercises and methods.

Sexuality and Aging
Ken Haslam, Jens Wennberg, and Nancy Miller

Nobody ever believed that "Old People" had sex!  Now as we age, we find that our sexuality continues.  This is another topic our parents never told us about!! Hot sex, loving sex does not have to end as we age!! But there are changes.  What are the issues of positive sexuality, as we grow older?  We have found that the spiritual and emotional parts have become stronger.  The conveners will share their own experience of continuing sexuality into their 7th and 8th decades and invite other participants to share their stories too. Part of this workshop will be devoted to the men listening to the women discuss their issues; then reversing and the women listening to the men discuss their issues. This workshop will be co-convened by three Poly Geezers.

Attendee Open Forum

Is there a subject of interest not on the schedule? The open forum is designed to give attendees the chance to add what they want to the schedule. Create a workshop on the fly, lead a discussion and have fun. The sign up for open forum creating will be at the registration table. Workshops must be polyamorous and/or relationship relevant and are subject to staff approval. Be creative and have fun.


10:45 AM- 12:15 PM -  Session 2


Creating & Living in Shared Housing
Alan S

Over the last 15 years the presenter has acquired, renovated and occupied 4 adjoining houses in which he and his wife also rent out housing to others, choosing to live in self created intentional community, rather than suburban isolation.

Through these experiences, they have learned a lot about creating & sustaining community, while gaining a diverse education & skill set that spans many topics such as real estate acquisition, community activism through dealing with zoning laws / local housing ordinances, finding & selecting appropriate community members, resolving household personality conflicts, dealing unexpected health & safety concerns that arise when living with larger groups of people, modifying living space to better accommodate community living and, of course, making it all work financially. He is a true believer in the many benefits of living in community and, with his wife, has also had to integrate these complexities within their own open poly marriage. Join us to discuss the nuts and bolts of building community & living with others as we also explore how it relates to polyamory.

Bisexuality in the Media
Jenée Wilde

Mass culture images can play a prominent role in the shaping how people perceive alternative sexualities. Because fluid sexualities defy cultural expectations for monosexuality, bisexuals are frequently erased from media visibility or, conversely, represented as promiscuous, indecisive, duplicitous, confused, or as closeted gay or straight. In this participatory workshop, popular culture scholar Jenée Wilde reviews some of the challenges of portraying bisexuality and non-monogamy in mass media. How do these images reveal the limits of what culture can perceive as “real” sexual identities? What roles do gender and other markers of identity play in our perceptions of fluid sexuality? What effects can these images have on how others see us—and on how we see ourselves? Through brief exercises and roundtable discussion, workshop attendees will generate ideas about what works—or doesn’t work—and why, in our received images of bisexuality in culture.

Performing Polyamory by Tantra Theater
Kamala Devi

Calling all Deviant Divas! Non-monogamy is grossly under-represented in the media. As a subculture, we need visibility! Kamala Devi is a poly performance artist who offers an interactive playshop with performance art by The San Diego Tantra Theater Troupe. We are a collective of teachers, healers, performance artists and most importantly, lovers who are not afraid to express our sacred sexuality onstage.  Enjoy Comedy, personal narrative, improv and dance. How willing are you willing to represent your community? Living out loud requires creativity, skill and direction, Kamala Devi will role model the vulnerable process of performing with multiple lovers, and answer questions on how to write/direct/produce your own shows!!!  This is an interactive Performance Art workshop. www.tantratheater.tv

Attendee Open Forum

Attendee Facilitated - Topic TBA


12:15 PM - 2:00 PM

Break for LUNCH

**Details available during registration**


2:15 PM - 3:45 PM -  Session 3


Communication and Relationships
Richard Prescott

All relationships share a common need: communication. Learn some of the pitfalls of poor communication as well as some of the tips for improving your relationship communication skills! Clear communication can also improve your ability to "find your own voice." Finding your own Voice is at the very root of a happier life!

Polyamory as a Sexual Orientation
Ann Tweedy

This workshop explores whether polyamory should be thought of as a sexual orientation for purposes of anti-discrimination law.  It explores whether polyamory is an identity in the same way that sexual orientation is an identity and then examines some of the policy issues related to treating polyamory as a sexual orientation as well as the question of whether protection for polyamory appears to be desired by poly communities.

Awakening our Sensuality
Claudia Lanigan

Using therapeutic essential oils, Tantric breath techniques, and touch to awaken our senses and our sensual nature. In this fun hands-on workshop we will be working in groups of three to four, learning to connect energetically, intimately and sensually.

Attendee Open Forum

Attendee Facilitated - Topic TBA


4:00 PM - 5:30 PM - Session 4


Collaborating to Resolve Poly Lifestyle Challenges: What We can learn from LGTBQA community
Carol Morotti-Meeker, MS,MLSP

Experiencing challenges while living some form of polyamory is a part of the experience. Hear about what attorneys, financial consultants, therapists/coaches and accountants suggested as viable solutions to situations various alternative families find themselves at a recent New York conference. Carol will tailor the presentation and discussion among the participants to issues important to those present. Relationships with anyone ( your lover’s children, extended family, employers) money, health care, taxes and how to finance the life you love or want to have will be material for discussion. Come bring your experience and questions to this informative presentation. Learn how others have and are dealing with your situation and how their efforts are working out.

Define Your Relationships and Live Your Dream
Anita Wagner

The times, they are a'changing, as Bob Dylan once sang.  At no time in the history of western culture have people demonstrated a greater desire to live their lives and shape their relationships on their own terms.  This does not mean, however, that tradition is no longer valued.  Many of us still prefer to incorporate aspects of tradition into our lives and our relationships.  Yet so many of us also highly value personal autonomy, i.e. the right to self-determination.  As we consider our options and the pros and cons of each, common questions include:  Is monogamy for us?  If so, why?  What are the benefits, and how will we handle the challenges?   Would we prefer to incorporate others into our intimate lives?  If so, what would that look like?    Do we want both emotional *and* sexual nonmonogamy, i.e. polyamory?  If so, how do we decide who is an appropriate addition to the family and who isn't?   Do we want emotional monogamy but sexual nonmonogamy/swinging?  If so, what sexual practices and potential partners are OK?  What and who are not?    Do we want to create a leather family, and if so, will our family relationships be sexual?  Is romantic love permitted?  Or do we want emotional and sexual monogamy that still permits us to engage in BDSM activities with others?  If so, what would *that* look like?

The Joys of RelationDancing
Ben Silver and Robyn Trask

Embracing movement, dance, music with lessons in boundaries we will seek to explore what we can learn through dancing with others. This fun workshop is designed to explore free movement, subtle communication through touch, eye contact with an emphasis on respecting others boundaries, knowing our own boundaries and what we want.

Attendee Open Forum

Attendee Facilitated - Topic TBA


8:00 PM - 11:00 PM

Saturday Evening Extras


Saturday night is all up to you. Go out to dinner, form a party, hang out in the Poly Lounge or attend one of the fun evening offerings. Some offering have a small fee.



Kamala Devi

A SACRED SNUGGLE PARTY is a sweet sensual event where we create a safe space to flirt, touch, massage, run Tantric energy, play, laugh, cry, and share intimacy, vulnerability or whatever else spontaneously arises.  After a number of fun icebreakers, it becomes a drug and alcohol-free play party where we can relax and connect with like-minded people. Singles, couples, triads, pods, and celibates of any race, or experience level are welcome. All sexual orientations are celebrated.  This is a fun laboratory to practice expressing what feels good and what doesn't, asking to get your needs met, setting boundaries, and perhaps even overcoming competition, envy and rejection! The evening event will close with a sacred ritual in which each player shares their most valuable lesson. $15 suggested donation.


Movie  – Title TBA




February 12

9:00 AM - 10:30 AM - Session 5


Transformation of Traditionally Monogamous Relationship through Polyamory
Stefanie Fulwood

When we choose to expand a traditional monogamous relationship to embrace polyamory, we face transformations in stability, communication, emotions and other areas. The traditional relationship must change and grow with its participants. Please join us for a facilitated discussion on the challenges faced and tools for not just weathering transformation, but engaging in it joyfully.

The Politics of Sexual Oppression
Jill McDevitt, M.Ed.

From the man who was arrested for walking around his own house naked, to the woman jailed for wearing a t-shirt that says "I have the pussy so I make the rules", Jill leads a discussion on rampant American sexual oppression, highlighting the laws, the politics, and the psychology of oppression as it relates to sex. Reflecting on her own experiences of being a victim of sexual oppression after being sued by a Catholic church in an attempt to have her sex-positive sex shop and education center closed, Jill encourages the audience to reflect on their own sexual oppression while examining the ways in which they may also be the oppressor.

Poly Assertiveness workshop
Robert McGarey, M.A

"Assertiveness” is a big challenge for most of us, and it's even tougher in poly situations. We either don't speak up for ourselves and our needs are forgotten, or else we insist on being heard with such force that we flatten our SO's with the impact. Learn how to be both assertive and loving too in this participatory workshop.

Attendee Open Forum

Attendee Facilitated - Topic TBA


10:45 AM - 12:15 PM - Session 6

When Worlds Collide: Managing Relations Between Non-Involved Significant Others
Jim Fleckenstien

One aspect of poly living that is important to navigate is how one’s non-involved partner’s get along. What can or should be done about that. This talk will help participants understand the ways these interactions take shape, identify areas where challenges occur and explore the best practices for assuring a smooth functioning poly relationship for everyone touched by the relationship.

The Art of Long Distance Relationships
Robyn Trask and Jesus Garcia

Many of us are maintaining relationships over a long distance and/or a long time. This will be a discussion on all aspects of LDRs, touching on tools like IM, Skype, and the phone; travel issues between states and between the US and Canada; people’s differing needs and love languages. What are the common challenges and solutions to maintaining long term, long distance relationships?


Building a Sex-Positive Culture
Sarah Taub and Michael Rios

Building a Sex-Positive Culture - A “sex-positive” perspective sees all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally good and healthy. Join us as we explore the foundations of creating a sex-positive culture, including eliminating the sex-negative voices in our heads; creating supportive sex-positive places, events, and community; finding new spiritual frames that see sexuality as sacred and good; and sharing skills and practices that make sex-positivity easy and natural.

Attendee Open Forum

Attendee Facilitated - Topic TBA


12:30 AM – 1:15 PM


Closing Circle

*Workshops and presenters subject to change. The schedule is listed just to be a general guideline and presentations can and often do get moved around last minute.


  1. Hi – I just discovered this on the web, and would love to come but already have plans this weekend. are there upcoming events in NYC or a community here? thanks!

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